Can We Talk?

There is a question burning in my mind that will NOT go away.

SOOOO… best medicine for that is to put it here and see if there are answers that reside among the limited audience that reads this. Or perhaps that limited audience will repost, and thus re-ask, and help me find answers from the great and mysterious inter-webs.

What has happened to honest dialogue? What has happened to asking questions, being open to discussion, even argument, and still being able to remain friends at the end of the day?

I ask because it seems as though our society seems to be more content with picking a side, digging in, and vilifying the “other side”.  This is something that has existed for quite some time but has become increasingly apparent in the wake of the election cycle and continues to drive wedges into our culture seemingly screaming at us that our differences must define us, and when I watch and listen it seems that is the sad reality.  Every news cycle tells me this is true, every time I engage with social media it tells me this is true, but I cannot bring myself to believe it.  I cannot believe that voting for someone, that another person disagrees with, makes that person evil. It cannot be true that disagreement is intolerance, or that being intolerant is just a form of dissent.  There has to be a better way.

Especially in and among people who claim to follow Jesus.

Shouldn’t we above all people have the capacity to dialogue? And I mean really have the patience and love for one another as people who are trying to figure it out. To extend grace to those we may disagree with on social or political issues (especially on social or political issues). We must realize that life is messy, right? We must realize that people have passions around something that we may not, and that it’s OK for that to be the case, shouldn’t we?  Perhaps if we would follow the idea of having grace, speaking the truth in love AND kindness, considering others greater than ourselves, being quick to listen and slow to outrage (speak), and even going as far as to ask why people process they way they do (which by the way… this is my attempt). Maybe then, we could come to the table, disagree in love and without division and seek understanding so that we can be united in what unites us and in spite of what we may disagree upon.

Again… these are just some thoughts; along with an invitation to hear yours.

what’s on your mind?

 

j-